I think it’s safe to assume that you might be like me and want what you want, when you want it. 

We work hard. We deserve the rewards, right? I agree.

So, today I want to talk to you about how to magnetize what you want in your life. I do think the process is nuanced, but generally, here are the steps I take myself and my clients through to bring in more of what we desire.

1. Check your mindset: Our mindset needs to be aligned with our desired outcome. In The Mindset Cycle, our beliefs direct our thoughts, which inform our actions which guide our lives. Suppose I want to magnetize more money, but at a beliefs level, I don’t feel that I’m worthy of having more money, or that if I do, I’ll just blow it all. In that case, I need to uproot the limiting beliefs and potentially heal the trauma that is standing between me and more money coming through. 
2. Look at your trauma: Speaking of trauma… According to the National Council for Behavioral Health 70% of adults in the U.S. have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives. And if we haven't looked at our trauma, it can be impacting our ability to move towards what we want in our lives. In my coaching practice, I often recommend my clients parallel path coaching with therapies like EMDR if trauma is present. The combo works a charm!
3. Prime your nervous system: If our bodies feel unsafe to have what we want, we won’t magnetize it. If the idea of more money sends your body into a panicked fight or flight state, you will likely repel that money. And it’s not some esoteric notion…think about it. If you’re walking around in a panicked state all the time, will more clients want to be around you? Likely not. Notice what sends your nervous system reeling.
4. Open the portals: You’ve heard me say it before and I’ll say it again. This work is equal parts magical and practical. Once you’ve done the mindset and nervous system magic, you need to take practical action and open the portals for what you want. Going back to our money example, if you want more of that, you need to make sure you have revenue streams in place, buy the lottery ticket, or ask for the raise. We need to take action, and by taking action, we open up a portal for what we want to actually come through. 

If you’re ready to magnetize the work and life of your dreams, meet me in a consult call. 

With love,

Amina  

Hi friends,

Nothing makes me sadder than folks who summoned the courage to leave a tough work situation only to find themselves in a tougher one. As I hear story after story on my sales consults, I often feel a pit in my stomach and wish I could turn back time to coach these folks through their pivots. 

Because pivoting, whether it’s into a new job or your own business, IS AN ART.

In my coaching practice, I teach the art of a powerful pivot because I was once told to “leap and the net would appear,” and it didn’t, and it majorly sucked. I landed hard on my a$$, and I don’t want that for you. 

There are several very intentional steps we take to set you up for a powerful next level.

It’s about understanding your gifts, values, finances, belief system, subconscious programming, and so much more. While this is the work we do in my coaching programs, if I could give you three pieces of advice to support a powerful pivot, they would be:

1. Decide that you’re worthy of the dream. Much of my work with clients is giving them “permission” to have their dreams. Usually, there is a deep desire inside of us that we dismiss. We ask ourselves, “who am I to have what I really want?” But, who are you not to? Give yourself permission to say the dream out loud. If you don’t allow yourself to say it, how can you allow yourself to have it? Take a few moments to jot down the dream for this next career phase, and please don’t censor yourself. 
2. Get clear on what is getting in the way from both a tactical and mindset perspective. Ever heard the adage, “everywhere we go, there we are?” Well, it’s the truth. And when we change jobs or start our own businesses, we bring along our baggage and our blocks. Ask yourself, what has been getting in the way of me having the career I desire? What conditions aren’t allowing me to thrive? Where is my own mindset getting in the way?
3. Know your must-haves and deal-breakers: Before I left corporate America for good, I took one last role as head of marketing for a large beauty and wellness company. I wanted that title so badly that I didn’t do my due diligence and vet it thoroughly enough. I thought it was the dream, but really it was a shiny object masquerading as the dream. Make a list of your must-haves, deal-breakers, and nice-to-haves for your next role. The objective here is not to conflate the nice-to-haves with the must-haves as I did. 

To pivoting into your purpose!

Amina xx

And if you're ready to pivot powerfully, you might want to explore my group program Pivot to Purpose. 

Hi friends!

I shared a quote on instagram a few weeks ago that you all loved!  It basically said, staying stuck sucks. Sure, change is scary, but nothing is worse than staying somewhere we don’t belong.  

Inspired by your response to this share, I’m serving up some hot tips on how to get unstuck from the stickiness that is 2021.  

Step 1: Release tolerations

​​tol·er·a·tion

/ˌtäləˈrāSH(ə)n/

noun

The practice of tolerating something. Allowing the existence, occurrence, or practice of (something that one does not necessarily like or agree with) without interference.

We all have areas in our lives that we are tolerating—putting up with either because we haven’t looked at it or don’t believe that another way is possible.  When we are tolerating things that are not in service to us, we can not only feel overwhelmed and weighted down, but it diminishes our capacity to hold what we really desire.  Ask yourself:

1. What are you currently tolerating that isn’t serving you (examples include: bosses, partners, not making enough money, toxic behavior, overwhelm, being stressed out…) 
2. Why are you tolerating these things?
3. What does releasing these tolerations make possible?  What’s available to you once you release what isn’t serving you.
4. What can you release?  By when and how?

Step 2: Shift your mindset 

It’s pretty easy to feel down these days.  The world is in crisis, 40% of folks are changing jobs, the pandemic has hit women really hard...the list goes on.  But it’s not just the times that are making us feel down. Our brains evolved with something called a “negativity bias” which was literally an evolutionary response to keep us safe.  If we saw a lion in the prairie we need to hyper focus on the fact that the prairie wasn’t safe so we could stay alive.

What this means is that our brains are more sensitive to negative information or unpleasant news. Our brains literally have a greater surge in electrical activity when we see, hear, feel or experience negativity. Researchers have found that in order to feel balanced in a situation, we need to a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative.  Take yourself through this three step process to reframe yourself out of a funk. 

Ask yourself:

What is the story you’re telling yourself? What is the Voice of Fear Saying?

Is there a limiting belief (belief that is keeping you stuck) tied to this fear? 

How can you debunk this way of thinking or turn this thought around by citing examples to the contrary?

Step 3: Cultivate a daily gratitude practice 

According to Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a leading gratitude researcher, who has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being, gratitude reduces toxic emotions ranging from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression. And who couldn’t use a little more happiness, especially right now?

Ask yourself:

What are you grateful for today? Whom are you grateful for?

How can you express advanced gratitude (gratitude for something you’re manifesting that hasn’t yet arrived so you can allow yourself to feel as if it’s already here)?

What did this bring up for you? If it was a lot, I hear you. And if you'd like to process it together and explore what's next for you, I invite you to schedule a clarity call. 

Hi friends,

We all have that one co-worker. 

You know the one.

We’ve all experienced that one team member who is hell-bent on taking down the morale of the entire office. It’s heavy, it’s uncomfortable and it makes work downright un-fun.

Those toxic behavior can look like:

• Aggressiveness
• Gossiping
• Absenteeism
• Narcissism
• Passiveness
• Disorganization
• Procrastination
• Sexual Harassment
• Making Excuses
• Pessimism
• Prejudice
• Bias

I’m sure as you read through the list you’re thinking of a team member who’s embodied at least one of those. I've certainly known a few in my time. So what can we do about it?

I’ve created your guide to navigating toxic team members. Download it for free with code: Compassion.

To transformation and releasing toxicity,

Amina